by J. Hursey-Wingate
Too often we are intrigued by what is not legally or morally ours. We sometimes believe the grass is greener on the other side. What if it is? How must one cope with feelings of insufficiency or inadequacy within us, our mates, or even our possessions? The greener grass concept is ancient but remains prevalent in regard to relationships, careers, houses, vehicles; the list can be endless. The pride of life and lust of the flesh compels many to try to obtain or entertain what may not ultimately be in their best interest. No matter how blessed or equipped, some will always remain insatiable; searching for an unfounded utopia.
There are individuals who may argue that cloaking after a more flourished garden is merely motivating and stimulating. God advises not to relentlessly yearn over what isn’t yours. (Exodus 2:20:17, Romans 7:7). Competitive conduct is only appropriate in a playing field (such as a sport) otherwise; it is blatant coveting to long for something or someone that doesn’t belong to you. The Lord desires for us to prosper, you’ve heard the term, “richly to enjoy”. The distinct difference is when you long to have yours versus someone else’s. Surely we are expected to improve and achieve; but not when it risks disapproval due to faulty ownership. Therefore, don’t expect to successfully inhabit someone’s yard if it is fenced. Consider what is necessary to cultivate and maintain the appearance of carpeted greenery. The sought after results is proven by the motive of the fertilized soil. Dedication gleans gratification. Providing you are willing your grass could also be greener.
The idea of the greener grass is evident in attempts to “Keep up with the Jones”. Anxiety and depression often result from this behavior. Sadly many lose their identity focusing on the enticing hill that is camouflaged and craftily disguised. Know it’s deemed as doomed. Remember the story of Cain and Abel? Envy eventually sprouted in death. Contentment should be based on internal factors rather than external. A covenant relationship with God directs us to pleasant pastures.
It is simply stated, “One man’s bitter is another man’s sweet”. This certainly pertains to one’s perceptual sensation. What entices your taste buds and senses may be as gall and appalling to another. However, most can agree to the satisfaction of the owner of a manicured lawn. Realize if you haven’t appreciated what you currently have, chances are you won’t value what you could gain in the future. Remember to whom much is given much is required (Luke 12:48). Now my friend; be careful not to allow your fixation on the greener grass to cause yours to wither.
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